tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30472575159882792892024-02-08T05:32:48.962-08:00Ruby Psychological Services - Dr Nichola MarchantClinical Psychologist based in Derbyshire and online.
Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-13774194224185878962020-05-15T03:56:00.000-07:002020-05-15T03:56:10.385-07:00My experience of EMDRI thought I would write a little bit about my experience of EMDR therapy and hopefully when they are ready some others will add their experiences to this post.<br />
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I think I first came across EMDR properly around 10 years ago, maybe a bit more. The comments I heard about it were negative, cynical and I made my own judgements accordingly. My views were compounded a few years later when I worked with a small group of women who had found EMDR traumatising. I was horrified to hear how they had felt abused by the process and how the services they were involved with compounded the problem by acting punitively with medication to squash their distress. I vowed to stay away.<br />
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Fast forward a few years (now my sense of time is rubbish and my ability to remember dates is atrocious) and I was again discussing with a wonderful client of mine about how best to help them to move forward with their complex trauma. After doing yet more research it seemed that EMDR might be a good shout so I booked myself onto the appropriate courses and managed to squash my usual attending training related anxiety and get through it.<br />
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What a revelation! Sure, it's a bizarre therapy and truth be told I really have no idea how it works but it is remarkably effective. Initially I was terrified of using it (the memories of the women from the past still haunt me) but gradually it has become an integral part of the therapy I do.<br />
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I've seen people have amazing results using EMDR to overcome early childhood experiences, single and complex trauma, change core beliefs, manage OCD and beat anxiety. It's amazing for changing sexual difficulties and for reducing self blame and shame. It's not an easy therapy (I have never been scowled and growled at as much as I have when using EMDR) however their are so many creative ways of using it to build resources and to process memories I can't imagine not having it in my toolkit. I love how it fits nicely with my other go to therapies of Schema Therapy and Compassion Focused Therapy too.<br />
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It's not just for single event trauma and I would really recommend considering it if you are looking to embark on a new therapy journey. It's not for everyone of course, no therapy works for all. And the most important factor is finding a therapist who suits you. But don't do what I did and discount it without giving it a chance.Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-11686111521975345262020-05-05T08:49:00.001-07:002020-05-05T08:49:18.608-07:00Venturing into online therapy<div class="jwLWP _2hXa7 _1dPe8 blog-post-text-font blog-post-text-color" data-block="true" data-editor="dp7me" data-offset-key="foo-0-0" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); background-color: white; border: 0px; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: arial, "ms pゴシック", "ms pgothic", 돋움, dotum, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">
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‘oh no, I can’t possible do therapy online! I am different make an exception!’
Despite the fact that my degree is almost entirely online, so I am used to webinars, zoom and live chat, I still rigidly thought that my emotions had no place in cyber-space. My logical mind (which is where I feel most comfortable), kept on telling me that therapy did not belong in my house, and certainly did not belong in my bedroom where my computer is set up. I’d like to say I embraced it and went in with an open mind but the autistic side of my brain dug my heels in for the first week and didn’t make the most of therapy.
Now however, I am a convert! I love having therapy online, in my home and in my bedroom. I have all my grounding tools around me such as my essential oils, my weighted blanket and my sensory toys. There is space to get up and do some squats when I’m dissociating and it has cut down on 2.5 hours travel time each week.
Having my therapist there in my surroundings which I have created myself seems so much safer to me. My room is blue – another thing to make me feel safe, and if I’m upset I don’t have to look at the camera. I don’t think Nichola is too fond of this last point, but I really don’t like crying, so having the option to just turn and stroke my dog instead is super-beneficial to me. I guess I do miss the human connection sometimes, so post-covid I would like to have some sessions in person, but overall online is definitely very easily accessible and I recommend it to anybody who has work commitments and can’t make appointments, or lives too far away too travel regularly.
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Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-67339714087812313982018-02-21T03:48:00.002-08:002018-02-21T03:48:21.436-08:00Body therapiesSorry it's been a while since I posted.<br />
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Today I wanted to emphasise the importance of not forgetting our BODIES when it comes to recovery / healing / progress or whatever you prefer to call it. Our bodies hold so much stress / emotion and sometimes in therapy they can be forgotten. As therapists such as Babette Rothschild and Bessel Van De Kolk note "the body remembers", particularly when it comes to trauma.<br />
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I highly recommend yoga (with an experiences instructor) as a way of connecting with our bodies and letting go of past memories. Tai Chi is also excellent as a way of soothing and increasing mindfulness and body awareness. Therapies such as EMDR and Somatic Trauma Therapy can be really useful in connecting together our thoughts, feelings and physical sensations as a way of processing the past and moving forward.<br />
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In order to make the most progress it seems important to remember to see ourselves as a whole with many parts and to enable all of these parts to heal in the way that suits us.<br />
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<br />Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-12689152835964749202015-05-24T06:09:00.000-07:002015-05-24T06:09:38.733-07:00appreciating our feelingsFeelings ( or emotions) are complex things. Sometimes they are immensely pleasurable while at other times they are overwhelmingly painful. At times we may wish we could lock them away in a box forever or have them removed , especially if it seems that all they do is cause distress. Feelings can get out of control, telling us there are threats when there are none, causing problems in our relationships and dragging us down.<br />
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However our feelings are important. They communicate things to us - telling us we need to run when there is a real threat, tell us to stand up and fight when we need to, let us know that maybe we shouldn't have done something and perhaps need to apologise and give us a buzz when something nice is happening.<br />
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Our feelings communicate to others too and can help improve our relationships - letting people know when we need a hug, or a cuppa or that the time is right to jump around squealing in excitement!<br />
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Without our feelings we might avoid the crappy stuff but it would be a whole lot harder to survive and we would certainly miss out on all the wonderful stuff. Let's learn to love our feelings because without them what would we be?<br />
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For anyone who struggles with identifying their feelings or managing them safely, you are not alone. Approaches such as Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, Schema Therapy, Mindfulness and Compassionate Mind can be really useful in helping us to learn how to identify our feelings, how to allow ourselves to experience feelings and how to manage them when they get out of control.<br />
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<a href="http://rubypsychologicals.wix.com/ruby">http://rubypsychologicals.wix.com/ruby</a>Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-36857224743467444892015-05-22T22:31:00.003-07:002015-05-22T22:32:16.085-07:00thinking outside the boxPsychological therapies have traditionally been conducted in clinics and interview rooms. The emphasis has been on containment and consistency. There is no doubt that for some people the predictability of a familiar environment can encourage the formation of a positive therapeutic alliance with the therapist and enable everything to focus on what's going on in the room.<br />
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More and more though I ( and many others) have been considering the benefits of offering an alternative approach which takes therapy outside to connect with nature and often our emotions and our sense of inner peace. For some this process can feel less intimidating and more empowering. Being outside naturally gives many opportunities for mindfulness and can allow us to explore places and indeed parts of ourselves that we didn't know existed.<br />
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It's ok to be creative, to break free of apparent traditions and to think about doing things differently!Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-38461698569348056722015-03-15T23:12:00.001-07:002015-03-15T23:12:28.811-07:00Mindful MondayThe start of the week may bring doom and gloom and a longing for the weekend / holidays / the future. Focussing on what is to come may prompt feelings of anxiety of frustration. We may also look back at what has gone before triggering feelings of sadness of what we have lost or feelings of pain and regret.<br />
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This week lets try to be different. Let's focus on the here and now, living in the moment. Coping with what life throws at us ( because we can), enjoying the small things that we experience each day ( as there is pleasure all around us if we can learn to see it) and mindfully experiencing each day ( each hour, each minute) as it happens.<br />
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Mindfully cleaning our teeth, taking a shower, making that cuppa, walking to work....whatever we do throughout the day can be done mindfully with our full attention. Things around us will distract us, thoughts in our head, sensations in our body, but each can we become distracted we can try to notice the distraction and then let it go by turning our attention back to the task in hand.<br />
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Don't lets live our lives buried in the past or rushing towards the future, lets try our best to live in the present ( as painful and as uncomfortable as that may feel) and learn that we can cope, we are strong and our emotions are manageable.<br />
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For more information on mindfulness try searching for mindfulness resources on the internet for downloads, scripts and more.Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-34086632021844779212015-03-13T11:13:00.002-07:002015-03-13T11:13:46.162-07:00Schema TherapyI'm currently training in schema therapy which I'm really enjoying. My client's really seem to "get" the approach and it is flexible enough to offer different things to different people. It offers a really useful way of understanding ourselves and our development.<br />
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Once upon a time we were all "vulnerable children" with various needs. If our needs were met by "good-enough" ( I think it's really important to emphasise that nothing is ever perfect!) then we can develop into healthy adults. At times though we may behave in different ways particularly when responding to situations that we find painful. These different "modes" have been functional in that they have served to protect us from pain but they also prevent us from reaching our full potential and can impact on our relationships.<br />
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Examples of schema modes include the angry child mode ( who appears when our needs are not met), the punitive parent mode ( the critical inner voice that berates us) and the avoidant protector ( who avoids painful thoughts / situations).<br />
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If our care-giving ( for whatever reason) wasn't "good enough" for our specific needs we may find that we spend alot more time in these less healthy schema modes. Schema therapy using aspects of lots of different therapies to help us to understand our own pattern of modes, what drives this and looks at ways of overcoming this with a view to helping us develop into healthier adults. I'm finding it really useful personally and think it's a great option for anyone wanting to gain more insight into their personality and to put a stop to tricky life patterns.Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-27426024362188238442015-03-10T22:49:00.002-07:002015-03-10T22:50:08.853-07:00Being kind to ourselvesOften in life we find it easy enough to be kind to other people but being kind to ourselves is another matter. We might have a strong self critical / punitive parent ( see Schema Therapy) voice in our head that berates us for everything we do. We might be overwhelmed by painful feelings ( particularly shame) which block out our ability to be kind to ourselves.<br />
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The ability to be kind or compassionate to ourselves is a real skill but one that can make a real difference in our ability to tolerate painful emotions and to survive what life throws at us. It takes practice. Have a compassionate phrase ( eg I am safe, I am strong) to say to yourself throughout the day. Do pleasant things to self-soothe in times of distress.<br />
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For more information look on the internet for Schema Therapy (Young), Compassionate Mind ( Gilbert) and DBT (Linehan). These approaches will be discussed in later posts.Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-75548196656702870412015-03-08T05:04:00.000-07:002015-03-08T05:04:37.711-07:00Count your blessingsWe can all become bogged down by our distress and the pain that life inevitably throws at us from time to time. If we allow ourselves to focus on this we can become overwhelmed and less able to cope. One way to try and move away from this is to sit down and reflect on the good bits, however small. It might be as simple as having enough food in the cupboard or having somewhere to sleep at night. Make a list , you might be surprised.Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-51629572037311410712015-03-06T05:48:00.000-08:002015-03-06T05:48:08.825-08:00Self-help resources<br />
There are some great self-help resources available for those unable to access therapy themselves.<br />
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I particularly likes these booklets as they are simple and effective<br />
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http://www.ntw.nhs.uk/pic/selfhelp/Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-73367736995404145062015-03-01T22:23:00.000-08:002015-03-01T22:23:24.838-08:00Book suggestionNew schema therapy self-help book, has to be worth a look!<br />
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http://eu.wiley.com/WileyCDA/WileyTitle/productCd-1118877713.html<br />
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Schema therapy is really accessible as a model and seems to make sense to people who have previously struggled with therapy ( and for those who have not!). Self-help books can offer those who are not in a position to access therapy a way of supporting themselves and can assist those who are in therapy to get the most out of the process.Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-76259979700440043952015-02-27T10:15:00.002-08:002015-02-27T10:15:59.618-08:00Dialectical Behaviour Therapy<div>
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The balance between saying well done you have strategies in place that have allowed you to survive so far while also saying lets try and learn something new and healthier. DBT focuses on the present.<div>
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Skills focus on Mindfulness, Regulating Emotions, Tolerating Distress and Healthy Relationships. </div>
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Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-11488426310319779812015-02-26T22:14:00.001-08:002015-02-26T22:14:51.893-08:00Feeling good<br />
Therapy is certainly one of the things that can help people to make sense of their experiences, reduce blame and to learn new ways of coping and being that maybe cause less distress. However there are other things that we can all do that can help us to feel better about ourselves and to increase our resilience.<br />
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These things include:<br />
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<li>Getting enough sleep ( depending on what you need as an individual)</li>
<li>Eating a healthy , balanced diet ( too much sugar for example can play havoc on our emotions)</li>
<li>Having some gentle exercise every day</li>
<li>Not over-indulging in alcohol ( alcohol is a depressant and can significantly impact on our mood and sleep patterns)</li>
<li>Looking after any physical aches and pains </li>
<li>Doing something we find pleasurable every day</li>
<li>Doing something that gives us a sense of achievement each day</li>
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If we find it difficult to look after and care for ourselves maybe its time to consider why that is and look at changing this. It is ok to be kind to ourselves.</div>
Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-1976035408015910072015-02-19T13:18:00.000-08:002015-02-19T13:18:11.737-08:00Being mindful Mindfulness is one of the techniques that is now seen as useful for lots of different issues. It can help people to manage their distress, live in the moment ( and so prevent depression from focusing on the past and anxiety about thinking about the future) and assist with concentrating and being aware of what's going on around us.<br />
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It's one of the things that can really help us but can also be really tricky to grasp. I know that mindfulness will benefit me but I find it hard! In DBT we talk about the mindfulness what skills of OBSERVING, DESCRIBING and PARTICIPATING and the how skills of being NON-JUDGMENTALLY, ONE-MINDFULLY and EFFECTIVELY.<br />
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In starting to practice mindfulness I like to take an object or an activity that I enjoy ( eating chocolate or having a hot shower) and describe everything I notice using all of my senses ( eg the chocolate is brown, it tastes sweet, it smells of cocoa, it crunches in my mouth, it feels smooth). By focusing on describing I attempt to focus all of my attention on the chocolate rather than on thoughts in my head, physical sensations in my body and whats going on in the environment around me. When I get distracted ( which I do, often!) I simply notice the distraction and let it go, bringing my attention gently back to the chocolate ( or shower, or my breathing etc).<br />
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Practice makes mindfulness easier, it's ok to find it hard, the simple of act of spending a few minutes just on YOU can in itself be hugely beneficial. Give it a go - you might like it!Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-76966703896014876662015-02-18T09:08:00.000-08:002015-02-18T09:08:05.146-08:00Acceptance<br />
<dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.3999996185303px; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;">Acceptance is a key skill in tolerating distress and painful emotions. It sounds easy but is often one of the hardest things to do as our brains are wired to fight or flee from things that threaten us. </dd><dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.3999996185303px; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;"><br /></dd><dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.3999996185303px; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;">Therapy can help us to identify what things in life can be changed and give us the courage to address them. It can also provide us with the space to explore our reluctance to accept and give us the skills to change the way we cope. For those wanting to explore the underlying reasons for our individual coping and personality styles therapy can also bring insight and understanding and freedom from shame.</dd><dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.3999996185303px; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;"><br /></dd><dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.3999996185303px; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;">The Serenity Prayer....</dd><dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.3999996185303px; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;"><span style="line-height: 22.3999996185303px;"><br /></span></dd><dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.3999996185303px; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;"><span style="line-height: 22.3999996185303px;">Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,</span></dd><dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.3999996185303px; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;">The courage to change the things I can,</dd><dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.3999996185303px;">And the wisdom to know the difference. (</span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reinhold_Niebuhr" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: none; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0b0080; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.3999996185303px; text-decoration: none;" title="Reinhold Niebuhr">Reinhold Niebuhr</a><span style="font-size: 11.1999998092651px; line-height: 11.1999998092651px;">)</span></dd><dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.1999998092651px; line-height: 11.1999998092651px;"><br /></span></dd><dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.1999998092651px; line-height: 11.1999998092651px;"><br /></span></dd><dd style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-left: 1.6em; margin-right: 0px;"><br /></dd>Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-51096707416916908272015-02-16T21:56:00.000-08:002015-02-16T21:59:01.900-08:00Personality Disorder...<span style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">Ruby Psychological Services work with individuals of all ages with presenting problems from anxiety to substance misuse. We particularly specialize in working with people who have a diagnosis (or who think they may have) of personality disorder. We understand that diagnosis is a controversial area and focus on gaining a collaborative understanding of your experience and alleviating distress.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px;"><br /></span>
<span style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">For some having a formal diagnosis can seem like the end of the world while others see it as a relief and a sign of hope and accessing treatment. Whatever your perspective there is help on hand. There are many different approaches available to help support people with difficulties relating to coping, emotional recognition and regulation and relationship patterns. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">As an intergrative psychologist I am able to use aspects of different therapeutic approaches to suit what YOU need. The main models I draw from are Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), Schema Therapy and Compassion Focused Therapy. Therapy is a flexible process. For some the need is to focus on symptom management, reducing problematic behaviours and increasing coping while others wish to focus specifically on making sense of early experiences. In providing a collaborative and intergrative approach we week to meet these individually needs.</span></span></span>Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-61143943297944201492015-02-16T09:01:00.001-08:002015-02-18T12:56:17.930-08:00Taking the first stepsTaking the first step into therapy can be an anxiety provoking experience, particularly when we don't know what to expect.<br />
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I understand these anxieties and appreciate the courage required to make the first steps towards making changes in our every day lives. At Ruby Psychological services we offer a free 20 minute telephone consultation to anyone interested in exploring whether we can offer you what you need.<br />
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There are many therapeutic approaches on offer but time and time again research suggests that the most important factor in successful therapy is in fact the therapeutic relationship. It is crucial that you find a therapist / counsellor / psychologist who you believe you can work with.<br />
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To arrange a free consultation or to find out more about what we can offer then please email rubypsychologicalservices@gmail.com or call / text 07771391614Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3047257515988279289.post-57251322597657530422015-02-01T07:22:00.002-08:002015-02-01T07:22:11.315-08:00WelcomeWelcome to the new blog for Ruby Psychological Services in Derbyshire.<br />
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RPS offer psychological therapies in various formats including email support, one to one counselling, couple and family work and group work. Offering both short term and long term therapy we aim to offer a supportive and collaborative framework for over-coming psychological distress.<br />
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Please feel free to comment or email rubypsychologicalservices@gmail.com for further information. This blog is a work in process and will be updated regularly.Dr Nichola Marchanthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13096450792755368997noreply@blogger.com0